[TTA] People getting engaged just for status

So you may rage on me during this, or agree with it. It's up to you, but what I really is this for my country, Norway, but here we go:

It's like, you dated, figured out you wanted to get together as girlfriend/boyfriend. You are in a phase where you are totally in love, and you feel there is nothing that can break it, and you are going to get married and live happy ever after. Why get engaged in this phase?

In America it's pretty normal to get engaged early, but I've also heard people who have waited up til one year before they ask for the girls hand. It is, like, their culture you know, but in Norway it's not. I feel like people get engaged when they are in this phase, pretty early, for running around with a ring on their finger showing it off, and if they later on break up it's like "oh well, shit, it wasn't the right person after all. Fuck all this money we put into this ring!". What is the point of that?

Why jump right to the engagement, instead of test the relationship?

So when you are in this phase with new-romance and all, I personally think you are all "blind by love", so if you wait til around two years or more, you have gotten to known the person more. You have maybe had some fights or discussion which wasn't as pleased as you wanted them to be, or maybe you have even lived together through the whole time? THAT is when you know or can start thinking: Is this the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with? Is this relationship worth working on? etc..

My grandmother got married when she was around 22 years old, and she said to me many times "You're going to have many lovers, before you find the one you're going to marry!"  And it's true. I thought my last boyfriend was the right one for me, and I tried everything I could to work on it, but in the end I got burned and broke up. When I got together with my boyfriend, I am together with now, he was already in the mood and ready to get a kid and engaged, but I said to him: "If you truly love me, wait! I am still very young, and it's way to early!" He waited and we got a child now, but I am still not engaged. I can honestly say: yes, I've been through that new-romance phase, and yes, I've been thinking "is this the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with?", and yes, I do want to get engaged. BUT...

Why do all the funny things now, and not save anything for later?

It's true. There are happy moments in life which you really looking forward to, like example: kids, engagement, wedding day,  birthdays, vacations, etc..  So why do them all now? Why not save some of them for later in life? Why are you in a hurry?

I've already been having one of my big happy moment in my life, or actually two: my boyfriend and my son. So what, if I dream of getting engaged? That doesn't mean it's not gonna happen later in life, and it doesn't mean it have to happen now. So I'm saving it, for later in life. When the relationship looks grey or boring, let's boost it up, by doing one of the big happy moments!

But this is what I've been thinking for years, and what I feels annoys me. And for those who only want to get engaged for running around showing off your ring, FUCK OFF ATTENTION WHORES! 

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[TTA] People who can't work on their own, and just walk away from it!

I am not gonna use names, or tell in detailed where this took place, but here we go:

So, imagen that you have to people who is working for you, and who are best friends. Stupid as you are, you give them one mission/task on this job, and of cause can they work together. (Becuase you are naiv, and hoping they would work better together or you would go after them yelling at them.) Sadly, they are inseparable. Everything they do, they have to do together. If one have to go to the toilet, the other one has to. If the one have to sleep, the other one has to sleep. And not only that! When they are been giving their last task/mission, they do it a little bit, and then just run off!


What kind of person are you??? How can you live with yourself, knowing that other people have to do double or all your work??  How can you be suck a ego!? How are you going to survive in the real world, when your best friend isn't at work at the same time with you?






I just want to say to does people who are like that:  FUCK OFF!

And for all of does who considering hiring them both:  DON'T!

And for does who have to work extra, or do extra work, because of does kind of people: GOOD JOB! 


Damn, I'm so annoyed and angry atm....


 

Er det tidlig å forlove seg i alder av 18?

Det siste halvåret ser jeg at det er så mange som forlover seg i alder av 18, er ikke det litt tidlig? Jeg vet det er opp til vær og en om de vil eller ikke, og om de er klare osv, men jeg tenker at det er litt for tidlig til å bestemme noe slikt. 


Kjæresten min og jeg hadde en gang en samtale om det, slik at han ikke skulle gjøre feil. Siden han hadde kjempelyst å gifte seg, og jeg var sterkt i mot det, så ble vi vel enige om at vi kunne forlovet oss etter vi hadde vært ilag i over 10 år, eller mer. Da er man NESTEN helt sikker på at man ikke har vokst fra hverandre, at dette kommer til å funke, og kanskje vurderer å ta neste skritt, men å gifte seg det tar man senere. 


Det er greit at gutter frir til jenta for å bevise at "jeg vil være sammen med deg lenge" osv, men jeg tror jeg heller ville sette pris på at han fortalte at han ville ha barn med meg i framtiden en gang, i stenden for at han kom med en ring. Når man er 25-30 så er man voksen nok, de fleste er ferdig utviklet, man vet hva man sånn høvelig vil og vil kanskje begynne å stifte familie. Så har man holdt sammen siden man var ung da, eller finner en ny kjæreste, før så å få barn, så finner man kanskje ut at når man gifter seg får man bedre økonomi. Da vil man kanskje sette pris på å bli forlovet (for å bevise at "jeg vil være sammen med deg for evig") OG få bedre økonomi, for SÅ å gifte seg. 




Jaja, natta. 

Is it nagging when you come up with ideas?

Yea, I wonder. Is it nagging when you come up with ideas?
Like.
A: Can you do the dishes?
B: Okey


Later:
A: Why didn't you do the dishes?
B: Because I didn't got time for it?
A: Why didn't you get time for it?
B: Because I had to do that, and that, and then that.


Here is it the idea comes in:
A: So why didn't you do that, that, then the dishes and THEN that?


or


A: Can I come over tomorrow?
B: Yes


Next day:
A: Hello? Was I'm going to come to you to day or not?
B: Ow sorry, I priomised another friend that I would go with her/him to the...
A: But we planed this for 2 days ago?
B: Yea, sorry.
A: So why didn't you tell me? So I could find another friend to be with, insted of waiting for you to send me a message or call? 




It's like each time I give ideas, to why people didn't do that and that, people get angry at me etc. I don't know why, I only comes up with ideas. I know it can be a lot of ideas sometimes, but if they had followed the idea I wouldn't tell the ideas over again. It's not that I'm telling "You DO that and that", It's more like "if you do that we wouldn't fight anymore about does things ". So I don't understand. Well, well.